Jan 05 2009
Married To The Military
My husband recently found out that he is going to be stationed in Korea straight out of AIT.
However Korea isn’t like Germany, Your family cant always accompany you. This freaks me out
big time!He is only an E-2 and I have read that your rank makes a big difference when trying to get command sponsored. Command sponsored for those of you who don’t know, is me going over there on the military’s dime, they would pay for my plane ticket, my passport and we would be able to get housing on base. Non command sponsored and you have to pay your whole way over there, pay for your passport and you have to go through the hassle of trying to find a place to live off of base. You still get OHA (overseas housing allowance) so its not like you have to pay for the place yourself, its just a lot harder. We will definitely TRY to get command sponsorship, however I really want to be prepared for going over there Non command sponsored. I know there will be plenty of downfall to going NCS but We haven’t even been married a year and we’ve been separated almost the WHOLE 6 months of our marriage, there is no way I can stay here and let him go over there without me. Even just thinking about that makes me cry. We are both young, he is 20 and I will be 19 in 6 days.
Ive been living in an extended stay hotel for the past 3 months while he has been at AIT, he gets to come home on the weekends so at least we have that but Monday through Friday I have a relationship with my cell phone. He got 2 weeks off for Christmas which was AMAZING, but then this last Sunday when he left, it felt like he was leaving for basic all over again. I will do whatever it takes to be with him. He is scheduled to arrive there March 27th, but I’m not planning on going until around the end of April beginning of may, that way he has time to do all his processing and what not, also it will give me sometime to see some of my friends and family before I leave. I want to be prepared for the worst, but I cant stand even contemplating not being together for 2 years. 
And it doesn’t help that almost all of my friends are teenagers whose biggest problems are what color lip gloss to wear or which boy at the party to hook up with, making it really hard for me to talk to them about anything. The Internet is full of articles and forums all which say things that contradict the other articles and forums. I just really need someone who understands what I’m going through. I just really need a drink.
